Subject: As someone who was where you are now just 4 short years ago.... Author: timgincentralnj as Tim G in Central NJ : member since November, 2005 : 924 posts Posted on: 2008-05-03 11:30:41

...some misc thoughts which might help a little:

1) I felt the same about my then-fiancee; no worries whatsoever that she was the "right" one. It's a good place to be when you're getting married :)

2) Savor the ceremony--and the evening for that matter. It's all over so quickly, you wouldn't believe it. I found myself taking a couple minutes alone looking in on the reception as it was going on just to soak everything in. Yes, as most people will tell you, this is "her big day"...but it's also your's. Try and savor the moment--and enjoy yourself. I remember being back in our room after the evening was over, wondering "where the hell did all the time go?"...like it was over in 30 mins.

3) The "Cocktail hour strategy": Use the cocktail hour to try and "meet, greet & thank" as many of your guests as possible. This means the reception (you know...when you and your guests are trying to eat, dance, etc) can be used to thank any of the folks you didn't get to get during the cocktail hour, leaving the rest of the time for you and your wife to enjoy.

4) Take notes when opening your cards/gifts--and do it as soon as possible: Elect yourself to take notes of the gift or check amount while your wife is opening the gifts you rec'd, then be sure and write personalized "thank yous" referencing the gift or amount as soon as you get back from your honeymoon. "Dear guest" thanks yous don't cut it here ;)

5) Enjoy yourselves! This is a BIG chapter for both of you, but be true to yourself and your wife, don't sweat the small stuff, and enjoy the ride!!

Have fun, Robert...!

Cheers!!
tIM

• OT: I am getting married next weekend, any last minute advice before take the - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-02 20:20:33 (84 views)
  • Be glad you weren't in Louisville this weekend with the Derby and all. - davidc 2008-05-03 15:39:42 (26 views)
    • +1 on that advice - lost some sleep - but at it for 18 yrs and counting (nt) - Lurcher 2008-05-04 20:19:08 (19 views)
    • Yeah I know. Louisville is party central this weekend. Had to sit this Derby - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-03 16:14:56 (23 views)
  • Good luck, Roberto. (nt) - Ed 2008-05-03 14:52:27 (34 views)
    • Thanks Ed. (nt) - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-03 16:16:28 (25 views)
  • DUDE - I live in Louisville. Where's my invite? Bachelor party...? (nt) - Lawguy 2008-05-03 14:41:44 (34 views)
    • Get out, my parents live in Louisville. They own the Gasthaus the German - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-03 16:13:19 (23 views)
  • Congrats my friend! (nt) - trey1966 2008-05-03 11:32:08 (26 views)
    • Thank Trey, how are the mods coming along? (nt) - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-03 16:21:07 (27 views)
  • As someone who was where you are now just 4 short years ago.... - Tim G in Central NJ 2008-05-03 11:30:41 (44 views)
  • Glückwünsche und haben ein nettes Tag ! Have fun and enjoy! (nt) - Edwin 2008-05-03 10:03:37 (33 views)
    • Thanks Edwin, Life's good right now. (nt) - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-03 16:10:24 (18 views)
  • Congrats Robert - 04sshd 2008-05-03 08:02:43 (37 views)
    • thanks Colin, my sister is fine, thanks for asking. Have fun at bimmerfest (nt) - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-03 11:40:36 (24 views)
  • Re: OT: I am getting married next weekend, any last minute advice before take the - Simeon 2008-05-03 08:00:33 (55 views)
  • She has to love u.....She accepted ur other love ....ur 7!!! (nt) - snitch740i 2008-05-03 00:58:20 (22 views)
    • Ain't that the turth, sometimes I really driver her crazy with my car. god bless - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-03 00:59:31 (24 views)
  • Congrats Robert ... I know it sounds corney but she's your best friend and best - aaron00740il 2008-05-02 23:31:06 (28 views)
    • I hear ya. BTW, your car looks fantastic. really like dem rims... (nt) - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-03 01:02:58 (29 views)
      • aww jee thanks ... I like your black/black and that refection sig rocks (nt) - aaron00740il 2008-05-03 09:56:26 (25 views)
  • You'll learn together as you go Robert. When to speak, when to listen and when - beechy 2008-05-02 23:07:04 (26 views)
    • It's been quite the learning curve, but it keeps getting better.... (nt) - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-03 16:15:55 (22 views)
  • RTFM Oh Wait they don't have a manual j/k - BJames38 2008-05-02 22:56:55 (24 views)
  • You're about to embark on an amazing journey. I've been married 17 great... - sdmike 2008-05-02 22:06:42 (30 views)
  • All I can say is Good luck Robert..... as for me? - larryd740il 2008-05-02 22:04:57 (35 views)
  • after 25yrs of marriage all i can say is - paprmkr 2008-05-02 21:37:03 (35 views)
  • After 29 years of marriage... - inconsistent 2008-05-02 20:45:56 (65 views)
    • Great advise. Spoken like a great husband. (nt) - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-02 21:06:47 (26 views)
  • Oh no, not another one biting the dust! - bpddaddy 2008-05-02 20:25:56 (46 views)
    • Thanks, I know it will be a great journy and not always easy, but worth it in - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-02 21:07:59 (19 views)
  • A pre-nup re the E38? - farnarkler 2008-05-02 20:24:00 (32 views)
    • I joked around with her about that, she said half of nothing is still nothing. - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-02 21:09:45 (22 views)
      • LOL! Exactly!! Good one.....! :) (nt) - Tim G in Central NJ 2008-05-03 11:05:45 (23 views)
  • Robert!! Congratulations!!! - IBHenry 2008-05-02 20:23:09 (23 views)
    • Thanks Henry. I am affraid I won't want to come back.. I can't wait (nt) - rg0115 (Robert G) 2008-05-02 21:10:38 (25 views)